Sometimes in life you decide there is something that you really want. You exert yourself to get closer to the thing you want. To achieve the goal , although goal isn’t necessary the right term. You want something to become part of your life. You really think this thing will bring you happiness, and perhaps for a short time it does bring you happiness. The problem that I have is that sometimes I pursue these things that I think will make me “happy”, but in the end they don’t really bring me true happiness and often times make my life more miserable.
I know this is a very vague blog entry, but for content reasons it pretty much has to be this way. I guess the underlying problem that I have is one of Wisdom. Wisdom usually goes hand in hand with patience. Two qualities that I struggle with. I sometimes pursue things that are clearly not for me and in the best interests of my business or my personal life, but I go ahead and do them anyway. I pursue these interests for various reasons, it might be for a position of power, it might be to impress a women, or may be for some foolish pride that I am trying to protect.
Lucky for me the things I have been in pursuit of lately have fallen apart on their own. Either I have lost interest completely in something I used to be actively interested in, or I have come to the conclusion on my own that nothing good could come from my efforts in those directions. Sometimes it takes fiends or others to show you that your pursuits aren’t worthy of your time.
I would encourage all of you to look inside and see what it is that you most desire. Is that desire something that is worth pursuing in the long term, or is it something you should have clearly put aside a long time ago. Sometimes people around you help you get straightened out by saying or writing things that make a bomb go off in your head and help you realize what an idiot you’ve been. That is certainly the case with me. I read something a few days ago from someone that (probably not intentionally) helped me realize that what I was pursuing was absolutely wrong for me and not worthy of my time. It was eye opening and allowed me to analyze and see things as they really are and not as I would have liked them to be. It was great. When you think something is great forever sometimes you are blind to the faults and problems that are clearly there. When you are finally able to see straight it is a good feeling.
I hope all of us can pursue goals and relationships that bring real value to our life for the long haul, and use wisdom in those decisions instead of selfishness and indulgence.
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