My oldest son is a cub scout. Every year the cub scounts have their pinewood derby race. The scouts and their dads get together and take a block of pine wood and mark a car out of it. You are instructed to add weight to it to make it no more than 5 ounces.
I was a cub scount myself (And Eagle Scout) once and raced my own pinewood derby cars in Las Vegas where I grew up. It is an extremely competitive contest. We would calculate the center of gravity for the weights, sand the plastic tires and nails that we used as axles. I learned a lot, as I hope my son did as we made his car together.
One thing he didn’t learn was how to be a winner or a loser. To make all the cub scouts feel good about the event they no longer have 1st, 2nd, etc. Instead the scouts race their cars many times and have a good time, but no one wins. The same is true for my other son’s baseball games. He is only 7, but they don’t allow the teams to keep score for his basketball team or his baseball team.
Life is about successes and failures, and both are very useful. We don’t learn to do better until we first learn that we didn’t do good enough the first time. It bothers me immensely when society tries to teach us that it is bad to win if someone has to lose.
Just think if I told our hosting customers that we made a good effort on giving you good hosting platform, but it might not work, but we hope it does. That attitude would put us out of business in a month. We work in the real world where everyone of us have to live – even our children. Don’t run from failure, but use it for what it was intended for, to learn to pick yourself up and do better next time.
PS – If you need pinewood derby tips go to some other website – My son’s car was in the top 20% for speed, but didn’t get #1 – No one got #1 😉
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